Fed up with sexual predators, and people who hold you back? You're not alone.
Since the Harvey Weinstein sex scandal broke in the news, almost every day we hear about a man in a power position getting fired. After years of sexual misconduct and numerous news stories about his alleged abuse, photographer Terry Richardson was finally kicked to the curb. Amazon exec Roy Price was recently fired due to harassment allegations. Think about how long it took to take these men down. How many years of whispered stories, and in the case of Richardson, printed and verified news articles before a company took action. Think about the Bill Cosby case; over the years, countless women spoke about his predatory behaviour. Those women were knocked down by the press and members of their own sex. It wasn't until a male comedian made a joke during his standup routine, that the issue wasn't taken seriously. A man had to make a joke about being raped so that women could get justice. Re-read that line. And again. That's sad. Doesn't that make you angry? I hope it does.
Stop Sexual Harassment
Okay, you're asking yourself how do you stop men from trying to hump you like a dog. The first step is simple: When a woman states that she's been inappropriately touched, groped, raped, what have you--listen. Don't discount what she says. Don't ignore it. Don't tear her down. One of the reasons why Weinstein and Cosby got away with for so long, is that if a woman said anything, other women jumped on her. Going forward, if a woman states something happened. STOP THE SNARK. Stand up with her, don't tear her down.
How to Get That Promotion
Recent studies have shown that men and women start working on the same level playing field. But somehow, women fall behind. True, there are more men in C-Suites then there are women. Some women do get into the C-Suite. In fact, population-wise, there are more women than men in the world. So, why do women hold less power? How about stop the in-fighting, interoffice gossip and tearing each other down instead of building each other up. It won't fix anything immediately, but if you stop sabotaging your co-workers, supervisors, underlings, you might acquire a strong power base.
No, I'm not blaming the victim here. But we, as women, love to jump in and destroy another woman's career. Why? Because someone doesn't like someone. Amplify that a thousand times, and you have women doing anything they can to block another woman from succeeding. This has got to stop.
Seriously, stop beating each other up. Life is not a dated Archie's comic. Good things don't happen to Betty if she beats the shit out of Veronica.
Women need to stop sabotaging/vag blocking/destroying other women when they:
(a) run for public office
(b) start or run their own business
(c) work together in a group
(d) post any photos or mention anything nice online
(e) make friends or network
(f) have kids
(g) don't have kids
(h) live the way they want to live
If we as women, want to see change, if we want to succeed, we need to get out of each other's way. If a woman says she was abused, we need to believe her. If a woman is having a wonderful time, we shouldn't tear her down on social media because she is doing that. If a woman is sleeping with many people, who are we to call her names? If a woman doesn't like sex, it's non of our business.
We can write and moan about how shitty the world is all day long. We must lift each other up. By deed, not just by word. Actions speak louder than words.
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